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How to become happier without drugs in the equation

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At some point in our lives, we have come across many success stories of how different individuals have embarked on life-changing journeys and have found the true meaning of happiness.

These people have faced some daunting life situations and have come out stronger and happier than they were. They could achieve this fit because of the positive attitude they choose to see all the obstacles that were laid in their path. Drugs have never had anything to do with it and their thinking was never dulled by it either.

Life is full of uncertainties and everybody have their own challenges. Nobody has a perfect life and everyone has a different approach to dealing with life issues. But to ensure your happiness and that of the people around you who really matter, you need to learn how to be positive, how to overcome the difficulties in your life without succumbing to drugs.

Drugs only cloud your sense of reasoning and prevent you from achieving your true potential, making you lose focus of the real essence of life – that is to be happy and be a good ambassador to your society.

When you learn to say no to drugs, you have succeeded in breaking free from the chain that has made you a slave to its desire and you open your mind to a whole new brighter universe. You will be able to be of help to the people around as now you are focused on the things that really matter in your life.

Here are some tips on how to be happy and drug-free:

  • Set realistic targets for yourself: when you know what you want your future to be like and set targets you want to achieve, you are less likely to do drugs. As these targets will serve as a reminder of what you aim to achieve in future whenever the temptation to do drugs arises. It also helps to boost your confidence.
  • Spend time with loved ones: spending time with people who love you that don’t do drugs is a great way to abstaining from drugs. The support, love and advice from your loved will help keep you on the right track.
  • Do things that will make you feel good:  most times people do drugs because they want to “feel good”. But there are so many activities that can make you feel better than drugs, all you have to do is find which one interest you better and pick it as a hobby.
  • Learn to say no and be assertive about it: most times people do drugs due to peer pressure, but when you learn to say no and stick to it, defeating such temptation becomes easy. One thing you should know is that friends who truly love you would not want you to follow the wrong path.

Many people have gone down the path of drugs and caused some serious damage to themselves that they regret every day but that doesn’t have to be you. You can be happy, better, of great significance to someone’s life and most importantly you can be drug-free.

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If you or a loved one is battling with addiction and need help, please call Valley Spring. One of their recovery consultants will help you get plugged into the best recovery services and sober living offered in NYC. If you’re interested in taking the next step or learning more about sober homes, visit the hyperlink here.

Feel free to read our previous blog post about the importance of sober homes.



There For Friends Who Suffer In Addiction

Good friends are key to happiness and health

Battling with addiction can be very difficult and requires a lot of love and support from family, friends and loved ones to help the person come out a survivor. Addiction can be in different forms, it could be addiction to substance, addiction to drugs, addiction to alcohol, addiction to porn, etc. There is a very wide range of addictions a person might be battling with.

A lot of people carry the opinion that you need to dissociate yourself from people who have addiction issues for the sake of your own self. A lot of people go with the belief that the best way to help addicted loved ones is by letting them be. However, contrary to this belief, research has proven that partners of those who battle with a type of addiction or another can actually play a very important role in bringing them to change.

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In 2008, Debra Jay and her husband Jeff Jay co-authored a book, ‘love first: a family’s guide to intervention’ which challenged the popular opinion that you can’t help an alcoholic until he wants to help himself by saying “it’s a completely different story if you say “If you can’t help an alcoholic until he wants help, what will get him to want help? Now that opens up the door to possibilities, I can start looking for solutions and answers”. Here are a few reasons why you need to be there for friends who suffer addiction:

They Are Stronger With Your Support:

  • This is a natural human phenomenon, when you are aware of your loved ones’ support for you, it pushes you to be strong and more confident in yourself. This feeling can help give addicts a boost as they battle their addictions. Always be there to encourage him physically and emotionally even when he falls or make mistakes. Make him understand that you believe in his ability to fight and conquer the addiction.

Your Constant Love Can Make Them Seek Help:

  • If you continue to love a family or friend irrespective of his addiction, it pushes such person to have a rethink about his addiction and even if not because of himself to seek help because of your love for them.

Your Guidance Can Help Him Find His Way Out:

  • Once a person who is battling with addiction decides to stop, he needs someone to him and walk him through the fight against the addiction. This is where a friends guidance comes to play a very important role, you should make sure to learn as much as you can about addiction because this will help you in guiding him accurately.  Take him to a psychologist. You also need to stay with him whenever he needs your support. Help him find support groups for addicts and register him.


If you or a loved one is struggling with addiction and unsure how to proceed, Valley Spring will help get you connected to quality recovery services and even to sober living if necessary. Feel free to learn more general information about sober houses and to read our previous blog article about why a sober living plan is a good idea

5 Ways To Control Your Alcohol Intake

Not everyone with a drinking problem is an addict

Maybe you haven’t crossed the threshold into full blown addiction…yet. It’s possible you are a problem drinker, more-so dealing with issues of alcohol abuse, and haven’t developed a full blown addiction to alcohol. This article will explore 5 different ways to help non-addicted individuals control their drinking.


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Keep Track of Your alcohol Consumption:

  • This is the first step to take after deciding to control alcohol consumption. You can mark out days on your calendar i.e phones calendar or a small diary can serve. You can mark out days for drinking and days to not drink on the calendar. You should also set a limit for the quantity of alcohol to be consumed on a drinking day so as not to exceed the quantity per day.

Create Alternatives:

  • If you have relied on drinking to help do away with some burdens then you should quit an create alternatives to it. You can create diversions for example hitting the gym, seeing a movie or even studying. Create healthy alternatives to drinking like good honest sober living. Avoid isolation as much as you can because you might be tempted to pour yourself a glass when alone. The best you can do is be active. Don’t stay alone when u know your weakness is close by. Develop a new hobby or make a new friend or rather reconnect with the old ones (the ones that are not a bad influence)

Learn to Refuse Drinks:

  • You might be offered a drink at a social function whereby you have no intention to drink on that day. A simple ‘No, thank you’ can save you the trouble. Delaying this simple reply creates room for excuses and you might end up drinking. There for the best thing to do is to respond as soon as the offer is made. Don’t delay your response. This might prove difficult sometimes but once you are determined you can overcome it.

Avoid Things That Ignite Your Urge To Drink:

  • If your urge to drink tends to be at its peak during social events then you should avoid them or rather reduce your attendance. If it is a particular place that ignites your urge, try to avoid such places. Where your house tends to be an agent of ignition too, you should keep little or preferably no alcohol at home — because that is where you spend most of your time and you wouldn’t want to tempt yourself. If your situation is such that hanging out with friends or a particular time of the day makes you want to drink, you should find activities to engage in during those times.

Do Not Drink On An Empty Stomach:

  • Hunger and alcohol don’t go well together. Whenever you are hungry, try not drink on an empty stomach, as the hunger might make you feel inclind to drink more — even if your intentions might be just a few sips. You should start by satisfying the hunger or you can carry out both at once! We’re sure you familiar with the old idea that eating food will make the alcohol get absorbed into your system, which should help to reduce the quantity you will consume. You can also decide to alternate alcoholic and non-alcoholic beverages while drinking. For example, you can take a glass of water during the intervals between drinks.


These steps might seem a bit simple or perhaps stressful for someone, but if you are determined to gain control your alcoholic intake, the ask here turns out to be pretty easy. Remember that unregulated intake can result to addiction. Just stay focused and determined, and you will find these steps helpful in your quest to gain control of your intake of alcohol.


For more help understanding your options, Valley Spring can help serve as a general resource or even provide services to help get your life back on track. If you think you might have a more serve problem with drinking and are considering sober living, Valley Spring can help you get plugged into the best sober living house NYC has to offer.


Feel free to read our previous blog about 5 myths that may interfere with sobriety 

Don’t Hit the Ultimate Rock Bottom

Rock bottom, they say, is when you stop digging

The ultimate phase of an addiction or substance abuse process, is hitting rock bottom. At this stage, so much input becomes inevitably necessary, if the individual must find a way of coming back to pristine. It is highly recommended that a victim of substance abuse is able to overcome his challenges long before the conditions deteriorate. The chances of an effective rehabilitation becomes considerably reduced, as compared to the chances that would be, if a rehabilitation cause had been earlier set in motion. Getting into any form of substance abuse is bad enough, not to mention what becomes of the person if he/she does not get help early.

Here are five reasons why you should avoid the irreversible consequences of an ultimate rock bottom before you quit substance abuse:

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  • Typical addictions occur over a period of time, and in such a gradual process. Since this is so, the individual has a tendency to have become so addicted to his substance abuse over time, and in such manner that he does not find it any convenient to stop. It becomes an habit that would keep him/her in its stronghold; and although he realizes the needs to quit, he cannot understand how possible that would be.

Too much damage on health could have occurred


  • Drug and alcohol addictions especially, have some very dire consequences on the victim. Every ill effect that drug and alcohol abuse has on the individual, comes in handy, after a culmination over time. Before you get to the point when you’ve hit rock bottom, your health could have been badly affected. So, instead of waiting till that time when your liver or kidneys would have gone bad, it is only best that you quit your substance abuse and/or seek help from the appropriate quarters.


Emotional and psychological trauma

  • One of the things to consider if you’re thinking to hit your rock bottom before quitting your substance abuse, is the emotional and psychological trauma, you would have caused yourself as well as your family and loved ones. The addict who has reached his highest point of depression has some tendencies to loss reality of all the values of life. He is subjected to bouts of fear, and uncertainty. Sometimes, this may be the actual underlying effect of the substance that is abused. Many times, the families have to share in the grieve and uncertainty that comes with observing the events as they unfold.

You may not be able to cope anymore with active society and the workplace

  • Many changes would have occurred from the onset of substance abuse in an individual, to the point where they have reached their peak. There would be times in all of these process when the person could still cope well with interacting in society and at the workplace. As substance abuse intensifies, there is a climax at which the ability to function effectively, diminishes or even becomes impossible. Thus, he may not be able to concentrate on office duties or handle work tools and machines. This could lead to a loss of means of livelihood.Rock bottom can lead to growth for people sober living nyc

A popular belief that ‘an addict must hit rock bottom before getting better’ may not be true after all. Reaching rock bottom is not a prerequisite to sobriety, sometimes though, it’s the kick in the ass required to bring about the desired change. Quite fitting is the way JK Rowling sees it, “rock bottom became the foundation on which I re-built my life.” If you are fortunate enough to be given a second chance at life, assuming you don’t reach the ultimate rock bottom (death), then you might just be able to build a stronger foundation from reaching the bottom. No one can predict exactly, what effects a substance abuse would have on different individuals. While some people may find a way of bouncing back, others would just helplessly remain in it. Change is possible!


Valley Spring will always be available to connect you or your loved one with the best sober living homes and recovery services in NYC! Please feel free to read out previous blog about how alcohol can affect your relationships or learn more general information about sober homes.